You can expect to experience a wide range of emotions after divorce. One day you may feel excited about your new-found freedom, while the next day may find you moping around the house mourning the loss of the life you used to have. These are normal reactions and all part of working through the emotional divorce from your ex. Working through these feeling is important, because not dealing with your emotions after divorce can hold you bound to your ex and prevent you from moving on. The following article discusses the wide range of emotions that people experience after divorce, as well as highlighting what can happen when a couple is unable to emotionally separate from each other.
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Many people are surprised to learn that a majority of divorces are initiated by women. Up to two thirds of divorces are filed by women. The fact that men are deeply affected by divorce, especially if they did not choose that solution, is not hard to understand. Myths persist that men are less in need of the comfort and support that a stable relationship provides but this is not the case. While our society continues to teach men to hide or avoid expression of their feelings, those feelings do not go away. They often appear intensely when a man is abandoned by a spouse or partner.
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For many in the initial stages of an affair, the romance is enticing, but once the the roses die, many cheating spouses become disenchanted by the reality. This reality is often a hard wake-up call that leaves all parties — the cheater, the betrayed spouse, and the new love interest — heartbroken. According to Puhn, this weakness can carry into the new relationship if not dealt with after the split.
My divorce caught me off guard. I had no time to plan my emotional response and being the planner I am, I found this a bit disconcerting. Actually I was highly pissed.